Found boyfriend on dating website
Guys who were just not what I was looking for just got ignored.For example, I am 27 and my profile specifically stated that I was looking for guys under age 35.Armed with this information, I posted a picture of myself wearing no makeup on my profile.It’s still a cute photo: I have long brown hair, I’m smiling, and staring into the camera with my big brown eyes.One of the quickest ways to get frustrated from online dating is engaging with people who don’t meet the standards of what you’re looking for.If a guy contacted me who seemed otherwise cute/smart/nice but said he wasn’t looking for a serious relationship or wasn’t kinky, I would send him a polite note back that I was flattered he wrote me but I didn’t think we would work out.I don’t relish the thought that perhaps one day in the future, I’ll have to look for love on the Interwebs again.I feel confident, though, that if my strategies worked this time around they may work again!
If I had to sell myself, I knew I had to do it honestly.
I discovered by accident he had been using a dating site, and in the last two months had been winking and flirting with women on it. And he has made me feel like I’m such an awful person. (That’s why “accident” is in quotes.) But the problem here, is once you procure information in a covert fashion it’s very difficult to do much with it.
I didn’t say anything for a couple of days because I was in shock and wanted to be calm when I discussed it with him. But then he sent me an odd text saying he loves me. Once you tell him how you discovered the information he’ll immediately shut down and feel that you violated the trust of your relationship. However, even though you “accidentally” discovered the information, now that you have it, it trumps any argument he can raise.
Underneath it I wrote the caption, “This is what I look like without makeup.” And you know what? I put a lot of thought into writing my profile and it showed.
However, my general consensus of how the average dude uses an online dating site is he looks at pictures to see if he’s attracted to her and then scans the profile for red flags.
Pretty much every guy who contacted me said he appreciated my directness!