While marriage may bring joy, help, and relief in certain areas, it immediately multiplies your distractions because you’re intimately responsible for this other person, his or her needs, dreams, and growth.It’s a high calling and a good calling, but a demanding one that will keep you from all kinds of other good things.But God intends to use you, your faith, your time, and your singleness in radical ways right now, as you are.You might come away from a reading of 1 Corinthians 7 with two categories in mind: those who will live, serve, and die single and those who must marry.You’re all dressed up, having “every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places” (Ephesians 1:3), with literally everywhere to go.With God’s help and leading, you have the freedom to invest yourself, your time, your resources, your youth, and your flexibility in relationships, ministries, and causes that can bear unbelievable fruit.If you haven’t learned this yet, I doubt any of your spontaneous friends are married. You have the unbelievable freedom to say “yes” when married people can’t even ask the question.One of your greatest spiritual gifts as a single person is your “yes.” Yes to a random phone conversation. When the spouse doesn’t exist, you can’t hurt them with your selfless, impulsive decisions. ” and bless others, even when you don’t always feel like it.
The single life can be (relatively) free from relational anxieties (1 Corinthians ) and worldly distractions (1 Corinthians ), and wide open for worship, devotion, and ministry (1 Corinthians ). but I’m getting married.” Maybe temptation overwhelms you, and you need a God-honoring way to satisfy that longing (1 Corinthians 7:2).“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3–4 will only get harder in marriage, so practice now.In fact, if you’re like me, you crave diversion and tend to default there, whether it’s Sports Center, Downton Abbey, working out, fancy eating, endless blogging and blog reading, surveying social media, or conquering the latest game.We might call it resting, but too often it looks, smells, and sounds a lot like we’re wasting our singleness. If you deny the latter, you may need to put down the smartphone, controller, or treadmill.
Be creative and make disciples over college basketball, cooking, or Call of Duty, rather than going AWOL from God’s mission because of them.